Action-oriented coaching suggestions?
My get things done lists end up on scraps of papers strewn about even though I have great technology and I use that too. I could learn to spend my time better and be better disciplined. Has anyone found success breaking free of the sense of overwhelm using a coach or specific coaching paradigm?
Hi Elizabeth, while your original post was quite some time ago, the issue of overwhelm while managing time still evades many.
Actually, it only impacts those who decide to create the overwhelm. Yes, you read that correctly!
My expertise is in harnessing the UNconscious, so while reading here may not make 'sense' consciously, it definitely 'feels' accurate internally. That's right.
Here's why: When you judge/label/deny/ignore/delete/generalize or apply any other number of limiting beliefs, here's what you just did: You took your internal truth and created something it is NOT - then got overwhelmed about how NOT it is ;-) Hmmmm, so it never existed, in truth, until you said so. And poof! it can be gone. Permanently. Nice.
That Poof! part requires accessing the root/1st decision in your UNconscious. It usually takes ~5 minutes in many cases and the results are permanent. I'm Board certified to do many energy shifting changes like that (I certify Doctors too) and I guarantee my results in writing. I'll honor your request if you like, as my treat. Give a holler!
So regarding time, time doesn't need to be managed. Ever. 7pm comes after 6 pm every day, like clockwork ;-)
What does need to be managed is what you DO with that time. I have a fun group training activity called 'How long is a minute?' While the answer is clearly 60 seconds, less that 10% of my Keynote conference audiences (thousands of people over many decades) ever comes close to it!
And the reason so many have an odd sense of time? Without exception, each of those who have the problem (recall others don't) have deep-rooted UNconscious limiting beliefs about what they THINK time is. And it is fighting that thinking that creates the overwhelm. Like shadow boxing ;-)
Next month, I'm launching a podcast series as part of my GetUNstuckNOW.org coaching system. One of the segments is titled: 'Your Mind Does More Than You Think!"
Scraps of paper....sounds like me. I too use various tech tools and still often struggle to stay organized. I recently purchased a new planner from Levenger that includes daily tasks and priorities (I tend to still like to have a notebook to physically write in). I am just starting to try this out and will let you know how it goes.
Like Mary-Alice, I've used Levenger products and promptly returned to scraps of paper. What works best for me is the Metropolitan Monthly Planner which I carry everywhere and use everyday. Then I add and black page executive planner which keeps me on-track and focused.
It takes discipline, Elizabeth, and making yourself commit to one place to keep all your hand written notes. You can do it. Just make a commitment and you will get there from here.
In the somewhat distant past, I used either Time Design or something similar (can't remember the name). I brought in the salesman and he taught my sales staff how to be organized using this system. I would think that the concept still works and there must be a computer program that does this well.
I tend to use a yellow legal tablet for making lists and crossing things off. Sometimes I write down a list of things I have completed over the last few hours JUST to cross them off. The act of crossing them off makes me feel as though I have accomplished/making progress towards the goal for the day.
I too tend to have a few places i jot things down, but for the most part, I use two small notebooks for business ideas and the yellow legal tablet for checklists.
Funny how with all the technology I use, I still prefer to handwrite and cross things off a list.
I hope things have improved within a year. Just in case they didn't, here is my view on it:
To achieve anything you need to have three things:
- Focus: a clear visualization of how the outcome will look like when achieved.
- Will: the burning desire to have thinks done.
- Capabilities: the skills and tools required to get it done.
You already got some answers on the capabilities part: change from scraps of paper to apps or a booklet, etc... If this still doesn't work, is because is not the capabilities part, but the will or focus that you need to review and fine tune.
To do so, I highly recommend you the support of a coach. I know a few coaching models, and I think the Co-Active coaching is a very action oriented one. If you are interested in further details, just ask.
That answer to your question for me is yes to both bits. Yes I've found coaching helpful as a client; and yes as a coach I've helped people with it.
If you are a book reader then the Getting Things Done by David Allen helps a lot of people.
As for me my biggest lear was to stop using to do lists and use the calender instead. In other words don't just make lists of things to do; physically put them in your calender/diary. They can always be moved but if they are allocated a date and time you are more likely to do them.