How do you handle failure?
“Success is most often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable.” - Coco Chanel
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Mar 19, 2014
I have to agree with every other person to response and love the outcome of failing. This does not mean though that I am any good at actually handling failure...I have never jumped up in the air in the midst of failing and just be thrilled of the learning opportunity that was just handed to me. It is a process you will have to go through and it takes time and a lot of guts to do so. The other side is very rewarding but much character and self awareness is required to get there!
Mar 20, 2014
Easy answer Modeo: there is nothing to 'handle' - failure doesn't exist, until one consciously creates their own self-limiting label.
That's right. 'Failure', only exists once the decision is made to create it, then instantly drains/diverts the abundant positive energy from something else that still exists: what is truly ... available, useful 'feedback'.
So failure is actually something that it is not, and so doesn't exist, in truth. It only exists in the story one created. And the roots of that story are stored UNconsciously, not accessible in any way consciously.
That's why the ONLY people impacted by the negative energy associated with 'failure', are those who selected to label it so. That's also why we do things (good and bad) instantly ... that we know we've done forever, without knowing why. Neat.
Unless of course one is so STUCK in their story, they cannot see the abundant exit signs that DO exist.
So while it is ok to get stuck for a second, it is not normal to stay stuck for even a second longer. If so, that means one made a conscious decision to fight all the forces of nature, always in motion.
Put another way, In truth (out of your story), there is no way to create darkness or shadows. None, zero, nada, zip. It is just an effect from blocking the light that does exist.
That's how I empower my clients to get out of their story and into their truth. That way they can effortlessly change their habits in minutes. Permanently! Includes, wiping out stress/phobias/addictions, improving work/personal/study/sports performance - anything you can set your mind to. I'm Board certified to certify doctors to do this too.
And if you have something nagging at you, inside, for more than six weeks (for some it is decades!) then contact me now - it means there is something rooted in your UNconscious that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know about it (you read that correctly).
Paul
Mar 20, 2014
Thanks for the nice comment, I like your first sentence that there is nothing to handle because the failure don't exist. Wonderful insights, thumbs up!
Mar 12, 2014
Learn from the mistakes and decisions you made at the time. When you focus on the learning you can avoid making the mistakes over and over. Fail to learn and you will continue to fail. Most importantly pick yourself up, say to yourself "I made a mistake, it's not the end of the world" and move forward. Don't hang on to the feelings of failing as you will never give yourself permission to let go and look forward to the next exciting positive experience you will have!
Mar 11, 2014
There is not an entrepreneur out there that has not failed at some point. 99% of those that meet failure simply let it get the best of them and move on to something else. The other 1% investigate what led to the failure, make changes to improve, and then continue on the road to success.
Napoleon Hill said that one's greatest achievement often comes one step after their greatest failure.
Mar 11, 2014
@Kevin, your point was simply amazing. Totally agree with your point, thanks for sharing your thoughts
Mar 12, 2014
You have two choices: give up or keep going.
If you keep going, you try and see what you can learn from the failure, if anything more than "don't do that again" and move on.
If you give up then see it as decision rather than something inflicted on you. Sometimes quitting is the best thing to do. It frees up time and energy to invest in other pursuits. It allows you to move on.
So simply you move on.
Mar 19, 2014
If you are not failing (occasionally) you are not trying hard enough... what's important is to actually learn from the failure and get better at things.
I like the book "Failing Forward" by John C Maxwell - lots of good advice there
Mar 20, 2014
Failure is a step to success. persistance and discipline is the answer to failure. The only time you need to succeed is the last time you try.
Mar 10, 2014
I am always regular, anytime someone ask me how my day is going, that is always my reply. Murphy's law does indeed apply, but he forgot to mention that it happens on the flipside. Everything that is good that can happen will, as long as you apply yourself effectively...
Mar 14, 2014
The best way to handle it is to learn from it, take the positives from the situation and learn where you went wrong to improve the next time.
Jul 24, 2016
Handle failure by postmortem review. The more effective postmortem assessment will strive for understanding root-cause(s). Sometimes that requires challenging honesty (whether by a entity, a team or an individual). If a failure's reason(s) can be truly understood, then the soundest possible next-step decisions can be made.
Jan 4, 2017
Failure is success turn inside out and the best way to handle it is to appraise and review what you didn't do right and learn from it to improve and above all take responsibility for the act
Jan 25, 2017
Just remember that success without a few rounds of failure probably means you weren't being ambitious enough. Also consider what great stories you'll have with all your moments of 'temporary' defeat.
Jan 25, 2017
If we don't ever fail, we aren't trying new things, using our imaginations. I admit failure feels disappointing but it's usually a good teacher.
Mar 19, 2014
Awesome answers so far. I particularly like Kym's answer. You do have two choices: keep going or give up. Figuring out which path to take can be challenging, but either way failures teach us important lessons and make us smarter.
Mar 19, 2014
Always keep going despite how tough it might be. It rains so much until the sun finally comes out.
Agree! :)