How do you separate work and personal life as an entrepreneur?
I am finding it really hard to not think about my startup. There is always so much work and I am constantly thinking about my to do list. I am not doing a good job turning it off when I am at home. Does anyone have any recommendations on how they manage this challenge?
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Aug 8, 2015
The reality is that you can not and you will not, at least during your start up phase.
Once you step into the entrepreneurial life, it becomes your whole life. We are all in the same boat.
I will suggest a different approach!
Engage your family and beloved people in the process. Make them part of your success.
They will feel connected and you will all enjoy a lot of successful moments.
Bryan, it is not even a problem to constantly be thinking about your to do list or work when you are at home, becasue you never know; some of your best most creative sparks of genius might and will come to you when you are looking at your beautiful family.
the important thing is how you manage your thought process by not allowing it to stop you from enjoying life with your family at home.
Jul 27, 2015
We are human first. Very few of us are Borgs or Vulcans. And even if you are Vulcan you need down time every few years or you have the same break downs as us mere humans...lol. Personal life is need to re-gather one's self, every so often. Otherwise, the original self that made you a great entrepneur will get scatchered and diffused and possible loose its way. So make time for being you. Maya Angelou, talked on this one a lot. A reasonbly successful human being.
Jul 25, 2015
To become an entrepreneur is a life choice because you are always on the lookout for ideas and how to turn them into something such as a business. You can have a hobby but your mind is always thinking and wanting and so it’s a 24/7 thing rather than part time.
Jul 23, 2015
Bryan you will work longer hours and harder for yourself than you ever did for any job you have ever had. And at the beginning you may not see an immediate ROI. I'm 20+ years into my business and I am still working 7 days a week, building, growing, learning & improving, I will go months at a time w/out a day off, this is what works for me, I save my time off for when I am traveling. Sometimes I jump out of bed in the middle of the night because I am struck by a great idea or a way to do something better and I don't want to lose it. Personally I would live this way for a 100 years rather than being someone else's employee, because that is of #1 importance to me, you need to find out what is #1 importance to you. Now what are you willing to do to get it?
Jul 23, 2015
Hi Bryan- I go through this all the time...and if you're married and have a family...hands down...'family first'...at the end of the day- despite any little business victories or success, family is EVERYTHING.
That being said, have an understanding with your family (and partner) that there will be times when you have to attend meetings, pitch sessions, or events that are business related (and this will happen a lot if you're an entrepreneur chasing the money). Always use good judgement and make good choices. Don't schedule meetings or go to events that aren't going to bring value to your business/startup or bring you new contacts that will benefit your business. Embrace the available technology at hand and multitask while at home...there's no reason you can't catch up on emails, or texts while you're alone in the bathroom (I know that may sound gross, but it works) or waiting for the kids in the car, or whenever. Learn to multitask...instead of wasting time chit chatting on a phone call- address the client's needs in an email or text and address your day's priorities or goals using your phone, tablet or computer. Catch up on calls you have to have while you're in the car on the freeway (speaker)...you can do it...I know you can :)
Jul 22, 2015
Make peace with it for now you have to spend most or even close to all of your time thinking about or working on your startup. Don't fight it, because that in itself will wear you out. Take 3 or 4 doable items from your big todo list for each day and focus only on those. As you get to cross them off the big list, you'll know you are making progress. Hopefully you love most of what you have to do . Set timeframes and short term goals. Find ways to get help as you reach certain benchmarks. As you are making lists for the day work in some breaks to refresh yourself...and some fun time with friends and family probably on the weekends.
If you hire a coach you will have an objective expert to talk things over with, to keep you accountable and make sure you stay on track toward your ultimate goal.
Dorene Lehavi, PhD
www.dorenelehavi.com
Jul 22, 2015
Many good advises here and I believe the intention to separate work and personal life is no more correct. Entrepreneurial spirit in found within the heart, part of an individual's mindset and behaviours. Whether acting during work or personal life, entrepreneurship cannot be separated.
Jul 22, 2015
So many people lots of great advice...I would suggest getting to know yourself better, so you know what areas your strengths and what areas are your stress points. Best way to start this process is through assessments. I find that not all entrepreneurs are alike and that while work takes up a great deal of time and energy, not everyone has the same stress point or time management problem. Knowing not only your passions, your presence, but also how you process can greatly help you understand how to manage your time better, how to manage those things that keep you up at night, and maybe even how to find ways to get some of the things that you are not good at outsourced, so that you can spend more time doing the things you are good at.
Jul 22, 2015
Do you also wake in the middle of the night and adding another half a dozen things to your list?
I follow a goal setting regime and plan my day (as I expect you already do) however I also make sure to include goals and tasks and other things that excite me that are NOT around my business.
Whilst I'm no athlete, I particularly like physical activities. I find they allow my body to work to the exclusion of my brain. I do boxing training ...Monday morning to start my week and Thursday evening to shake out the stresses before the weekend (and I pay a trainer to ensure that I don't duck out with the excuse of other 'higher' priorities). I've also set a goal of reducing my golf handicap this year as I find that, whilst I'm playing, I concentrate on my golf rather than my work. I also meditate (badly, but I'm getting better), there are literally hundreds of guided meditations on YouTube to follow. I found using these worked better for me rather than meditating to music I listen to what I'm being told rather than listening to my 'chattering monkey' telling me all those things I should be doing instead.
So ask yourself, is there anything that you'd particularly like to do that would excite you and within which you could get absorbed? Can you add these as short, medium and long time goals to your to do list and make them as equally important thereby giving yourself down time from your startup and allowing you to find balance in your life?
Jul 20, 2015
Hi Bryan,
First let me say, that I am in the exact same boat in terms of seeking balance between work and personal time. I'm the proud, anxious, overcommitted, passionate owner of a start-up in it's second year. I'm also a wife and mother of 2. My family is super important to me and it hurts when things feel out of balance.
I read a great book called Getting Things Done by David Allen (highly recommend it) and one of the key points I took away from the book was the idea of creating a "hard landscape" to your day in the form of a calendar where you map out the must do's. All other tasks are secondary. The must-do's are things like critical client meetings, kids school events, date night with your spouse, meditation time, prayer time, exercise time, etc. I found that I was able to commit to these items better when they were pre-scheduled on my calendar. Scheduling these things for myself makes it easy to say no to all the "shiny objects" and urgent requests that seem to come up daily in the realm of small business. The way you manage the work time you have that is not committed to the hard landscape will have a lot to do with your satisfaction level. If you don't already have a good to-do list, CRM or workflow tool...find one.
In the book, David Allen also talks about a concept called "Mind like water" which is pretty much a fancy way of saying peace of mind, a mind of peace, a clear head. With a hard landscape designed by you, and a solid workflow management practice you can quiet that "list" and become more present in your non-work life.
Keeping a journal may help too...I've found that I can do this right before bed and first thing when I wake up in the morning and it gives me an outlet for all my excitement, frustration and inspiration.
Hope this helps! Best wishes.