How do you deal with a toxic coworker?
If someone at the office is making you feel consistently stressed or unmotivated, you might be dealing with a toxic coworker. I personally suggest don’t take it personally and don’t let this toxic behavior damage your emotional and physical health.
Have you ever worked with a toxic coworker and how did you handle it?
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Jul 16, 2019
I am a pretty direct person. I went to my supervisor first and explained how I was feeling and then asked what the appropriate steps were within company policy... if it were appropriate to go directly to them or let them handle it. Thankfully the supervisor went to the person and discussed what was going on. Apparently, they were under immense pressure outside of work and had no idea that they were affecting others in the office that way.
It was squashed that week. They got more work from home time and everyone was MUCH MUCH MUCH MUCH happier.
Jul 16, 2019
Since these people show up everywhere and you can’t change them, your other alternative is to avoid them the best you can and simply stay out of their way.
Jul 16, 2019
Hi, Ruth!
Unfortunately, it's not an uncommon situation. Currently, I'm working with a toxic coworker who is not just a toxic person, but a misogynist as well.
My advice is to let it all slide off you and don't negatively react to his/her attitude. Thank him/her when he/she helps you, keep a pleasant smile on your face, be polite to him/her even when he/she's being rude to you and basically just "rise above it" and do your job.
Jul 15, 2019
Hi Ruth,
That's a great question. I like your tip about trying to not take the coworker's behavior personally and trying to block out the toxic behavior. Sometimes that can be easier said than done, though.
Personally, I have a great team here at business.com and haven't had extensive experience with toxic coworkers in other jobs, but I have a few friends and colleagues who have shared stories of toxic coworkers. From those conversations and conversations with other small business owners, I've compiled a few tips.
1. Try to work out your disagreements with them. Having an honest conversation, without confronting them, is one of the better ways to try to deal with toxic coworkers.
2. Try to stay calm. Like you said, it's a good strategy to take a step back mentally. Remember that this coworker doesn't determine your happiness or worth. Try to remove yourself from the personal connection and limit your emotions when reacting to their behavior. Take a deep breath and focus on your work.
3. Go to your boss. If you can't block out this toxic coworker and you can't make progress by having an honest conversation with them, ask your boss for help. Explain what makes your coworker toxic to the work environment and share what you'd like tour boss to address with them.
These three tips should help someone deal with a toxic coworker. Additionally, I'd recommend checking out these articles:
Advice for dealing with a toxic coworker - https://www.businessnewsdaily.com/12026-dealing-with-bossy-coworker.html
How to identify and avoid toxic coworkers - https://www.businessnewsdaily.com/5303-toxic-coworker-test-boundaries.html
How to cope with annoying coworkers - https://www.businessnewsdaily.com/5867-ways-to-handle-annoying-co-workers.html