How can I impress my boss?
It seems that my boss is never happy. I cannot figure out what to do to change this. Does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions around how to impress a boss that is hard to please?
You are not responsible for anyone’s happiness but your own. Your boss’s unhappiness my just be your perception of him/her based on something you feel is lacking in the professional relationship. Take a closer look at how you feel about your job, boss, co-workers and business associates. Focus on the positive things as well as the negative, but remember you can only change your reaction to the negative. You cannot change anyone else.
Too often, we put the emphasis on how to impress our boss when we should ask ourselves what do we like about them? I’ve worked for some amazing bosses I would follow into the depths of hell. On the other hand, I’ve also worked for people I had no business working for because I didn’t like, respect or trust them.
If you’re honest with yourself about how you feel about working with your boss and can honestly find things that impresses you…you’re ahead of the game. Does your boss go to bat for your team? Or does he/she publicly slam you at every opportunity?
Have you noticed whether your business is unhappy with just you? Or is it his/her demeanor with everyone? If you have serious concerns, schedule a meeting to ask for constructive feedback and offer solutions to their comments. If the boss is a good leader the feedback will be constructive and not personal.
do not try to outsmart him or prove that you are better off.respect and praise his skills and expertise and make less conspicuous your wit
Nice question Irfan,
To impress your boss;
1. Never let your boss remind you of your work/duty (stand before your desk).
2. Thoroughly understand what you are expected to deliver at your work place and use that knowledge to suggest new or better thinks to be done to your boss before s/he asks you what should be done.
Some times we worry and focus our attention in the wrong place. Worrying about others or what they think, becomes a reflection of how you actually think and of how they will then perceive you to be. You attract the emotions you invite in. If you have confidence that you do your job well and provide the level of support needed there would be no need to concern yourself with others. turning your attention and raising the awareness of yourself, what you can bring and do will provide you with peace of mind. It is difficult for anyone to stay unhappy around good energy and vibes. Remember too, that a Manager is always receiving input and pressure from above and below, to really assist and alleviate their burden you need to bring balance and take responsibility to share their load. A good Manager is always keeping their eye out for succession planning, observing your ability to be proactive and take action, rather than waiting for direction, communication use your initiative to instigate delivery and follow through. I guarantee a smile soon is what you will see.
All our adult relationships are just reflections of relationships from when we were little children. Ask yourself, "who does my boss remind me of?" Perhaps your father, or mother, or another authority figure you considered it important to please? Forgive your young self for forgetting that he is as valuable (and valued) as anyone else, and for not valuing himself as highly as the opinion of others, in particular the one being reflected back to you by your boss. Then watch your relationship transform with your boss.
Other people's reactions to us are never about them, and always about our feelings about our self, usually the child within us. Another useful technique is to see your adult self as the boss, and in your mind relate to your child self in the way you would love to be treated, with kindness, respect, love, etc.
Life truly is a mind game that anyone can win once he/she understands how we're always just out-picturing from our subconscious mind.
Hello Irfan, I would like to first say that your question is one that a great majority of workers ask, especially if they are in a role that they have fallen into and not one they have specifically chosen because it brings great satisfaction. And on the basis of this comment I have to agree with Carsten Schnier's response.
Now to you and your level of emotional and spiritual intelligence. The first sentence you write describes a great deal of stress in trying to access what is happening in your relationship with your 'boss' as you say that it is your perception of unhappiness or dissatisfaction. Your struggle is described by the further statement that you cannot 'figure out what to do to change' what you believe has created the dissatisfaction.
By describing the individual as you 'boss' you may have assumed that this person has total control of your ability to think independently about how you can best execute a task which means you could inadvertently be avoiding asking for clarity about the objective or the process to be used. There is of course another reason and it may be that you do not feel that you are good enough and do not want to expose this and so it becomes as though your boss is never satisfied.
Take time to understand what it is you are feeling. If you do not really want to do the job you will not do it well and will end up projecting this feeling on to another person. Second, threat your boss with greater respect and they will demonstrate greater respect for you. We teach people how to treat us, so treat your leader the way you would wish to be treated. Third, ask that individual for mentoring, if in the process they refuse then it is an indication that you will continue to be unhappy in your role as you will never achieve a good understanding of what they want. Then the option is to stay with them or look for alternative opportunities.
What others think about you is none of your business, what you think about you is your only concern! Are you fully committed to delivering the objectives to the best of your ability?
Hope this helps
Its not difficult to impress your boss , you two words to do that -Trust , Loyalty , once he feels that you are loyal to him he will for sure trust you , you need to work hard & give him Amazing results so he feels that you care about him & his work . I am sure of that when ever you build up good dealing with good results he will in return give you what ever you expect .
You are not responsible for your boss' happiness.
You are responsible for consistently delivering outstanding quality work before the deadline.
If delivering quality work before the deadline doesn't impress your boss, then either stop trying so hard to win your boss' approval, or go find a boss whose values are more in line with yours.
Take the time to understand your manger's business goals and commitments. Once you understand what he/she needs to accomplish to achieve his/her goals - then you create your own PBCs or your own personal business commitment plans. You PBCs will be based on their PBCs such that when you achieve your goals...they achieve theirs. When you review these with your manager, they have an opportunity to modify and give you feedback. Once approved, both you and your manager will have a plan of action that accomplishes both your PBCs .
At first you must sit on Boss seat, and observe, what he is expecting from you.
Secondly prove him, with your skills. with his mind approaching, not your.
If this approach not working properly. Then always put a butter on a slice to present your BOSS.