What is your company policy for dating in the office?
I work for a corporate organization that frowns upon relationships within the workplace. I recently have met an amazing man through my work that I would like to continue seeing. I am also very happy at my job. How do I approach this situation in the most responsible and professional way? Integrity and respect are important qualities to me and my company. Should I go to HR and be up front with them?
The Things happens but the limits are always there. The work-flow should not be disturb and the performance should be as earlier.
I met the person who would become my spouse at the office, as many people do. Discretion is the way to go - it may not keep others from gossiping - but it will keep them guessing. Not to mention the fact that it's none of their business anyway - so be honorable and tactful - and keep your private life private.
I would find a different job or see if you can be transferred to a different department or location. You already know that the company frowns on relationships within the workplace. So that is already against you.
Generally it depends on whether the proximity of the parties will affect their performance. Most companies only care when it goes bad and causes in office "issues" and otherwise don't really even want to know about it.
When I worked at a lawyer company it was ok to date someone from the office, but I never did. The only thing I was always blamed for were dating sites ( http://www.asiandate.com/ , OkC, Match ) I used to hang at. But I was single and very busy to meet someone in real life. I think it's cool when you're infatuated , it is always pleasant to go for a job, you're always in a positive mood, etc.
It is a tricky difficult and very exciting situation you are in.
Firstly, find out from the HR, so you may know what is acceptable to your employers.
Secondly, If HR responds positive thank your God, but if nay, privately keep your relationship out of the office and away from the corporate hours and venues, that way you wont be seen as someone who doesn't respect the corporate rules and a noncompliant person.
Finally , you need to gradually plan your way out of that job (Vote with Your Legs), it is 100% safer for one of you to leave the organization to keep your relationship if need be and you so desired the relationship more than your jobs.
You must be ready to sacrifice a (Jonah) something to save the ship from sinking....
Investigate what policy is. Certainly there is a P&P manual, or at least a handbook.
Like Jeff said, employer/subordinate relationships are NEVER good. Inter-departmental, as long as neither party has any influence over the other in any way, it might be okay with some, while the "follow-the-book" co-workers will make trouble for you.
Good luck with one of the oldest problems of working for corporate entities.
In my 40 years of experience across many business types and in various organizational functions at all levels dating where you work at some point creates negative energy. While in most scenarios this negative energy is not intentional it does happen. In leadership roles it becomes very difficult to enter situations without some type of bias. This bias is what begins to consume the leaders earned credibility among all team members.
For example vision for some reason the relationship hits a struggling point and your fellow workers start to pick sides. The first element of team division is born. This division will begin to impact one or more of the basic pillars of business safety, efficiency, quality and ethical behaviors among the people. I would suggest first to analyze your risk in both business value and personal value looking short-term and long-term.