What's your purpose of life?
I do not wish to ask too many philosophical questions... Just before turning to 2014 yesterday 11pm, a friend send message via Facebook chat to greet me happy new year.
We had a little chat, but it turned out that he complained that he doesn't know the purpose of life and feels life is meaningless. I was taken a back as he is well educated and holding a high position in his organization, which is a very large organization, and yet views life so negatively.
I went through a counseling session immediately via chatting in Facebook ... this is how I spent my New Year Eve :(.
From your perspective can you suggest what is your idea about the above?
It's all about Happiness. Enjoying life. Creating. Helping others make their visions real to make the whole world a better place.
Your friend needs to stand back and kind of pretend he is outside of himself and think about the times he's been happiest / feeling like his life was in "the zone" and he was in sync with his life's purpose. He needs to do more of that kind of stuff again or figure out what it was that made that time of his life feel more on track. Also, if he can or you can help him see where he has most made a difference, so far in his life and remind him to bask in those memories, even simple things like a smile or kind word can make a difference in this world.
People do tend to focus too much on the negative as part of their survival, fight or flight mechanisms, even when the good vastly outweighs the bad. There are several great resources for just remembering to look around and see the good things that make life, friends, family, everything in life beautiful and more meaningful.
The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor recommends for people develop daily habits for success and happiness:
3. Be Thankful / Mindful of The Blessings That Have Come Your Way
4. Be Kind - Do 3 Nice Things for Others Every Day
Related to #4. Doing Nice Things for Others Every Day, Michael Norton in his Ted Talk makes a great case that "Yes, you can buy Happiness." http://www.ted.com/talks/michael_norton_how_to_buy_happiness.html
Good luck with your friend & big smiles your way. ;-)
To honor those who came before us, and all the work they did such that we have the quality of life and the opportunities we have, by
1) Enjoying the life they have made possible
2) Continuing their work and do our little bit to improve the world
3) Continue life by raising one more generation
Third point maybe most important. Perhaps the most important "battle" humanity fights is a the microscopic level of DNA vs viruses. One way to view it is that we are only vessels that pass our DNA from one generation to the next.
Purpose of life for me is to constantly learn, upgrade yourself and make happy yourself and people around you.
I stucked in same situation like your friend many times, just cause i overdosed and concetrated on one thing so much,
Just let go bad thoughts cause if you trying to find solution for everything, it will bring you down.
Your purpose is personal. It is not handed down from father to son nor is it inherited by some royalty as your god-given right. It is not just an idea, your purpose is what drives you. It also influences how well you see and understand things.
Some people are blessed with clarity or have realized earlier in their lives to know what their real purpose in life is. (But your purpose is always personal and cannot be dictated by others) Those who have not yet reached a defining moment in their lives may not have an accepted "true purpose" yet.
If your friend is open minded and willing to discover what his purpose might be, why not ask him to watch movies or shows like: "In Pursuit of Happyness" ( Will Smith), "Samurai X" (anime series from Japan about Kenshin Himura), and Hachiko (the story of a loyal dog). While I cannot guarantee that he will find the meaning of the word "purpose" in these shows, I am fairly certain that, it will redefine or solidify what life and purpose means to a lot of different people.
When I mentioned defining moment earlier, I meant there comes a time when you realize what your purpose in life would be; based on an experience, a strong belief, a near death incident, tragedy or success story, or maybe someone special just happened to touch your life in a special way that you evolved or become aware.
Health first..without health, there can be nothing else really. One's quality of life must be first and foremost, then I believe all will follow accordingly. What's the use of having wealth without being healthy enough to enjoy it?
It is a shame that many people roam the world oblivious of the purpose of life ):
purpose of life is not a unique thing - that is not all people have the same POL -
see here - http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/purpose-of-life- 86 different quotes.
BUT any individual should contemplate, consider and decide on his/hers own POL - than this will be their own vision that they will strive to fulfill, because fulfilling visions and wants is the best way to go
Purpose of life??? I'd say it depends on the person and the way of considering it.
It could either be structured earlier or, at the present day look (Too decisive to come with). Whatever this could be, every person desires to be felicitous.
From my view, I just wanted to share the knowledge that I posses and the experience that I have had experienced in the business market, and the strides that has been put-forth to overcome the distracts to my pals.
Though we sustain in the business for some time, I hope the values exist forever. And so, there isn't any necessity to keep some one to the rear or emphatic.
I just want to add the value of a person's appeal as well the line of work in a righter way. This, of course makes ourselves to be occupied with the days of our life.
Purpose of mine would be - Prepare someone who can be divvying up your knowledge as you do (and have).
I completely agree with Jack. No one can tell you what your purpose is. I spent years in the corporate world never really feeling like I was pursuing my passion. I hired a career coach and she helped me identify what makes me happy and how to better understand my own strengths and weaknesses. She never told me, but she gave me the skills to figured it out myself. I recommend your friend talk to an expert who can help him figure out his own passion. It's a process and likely won't happen overnight. In the meantime, he might try keeping a notebook next to his bed and writing down 3-5 things for which he is grateful every night before he falls asleep. This can help shift his thoughts to the more positive things in his life. Good luck.
From my perspective, your friend has fallen into the fallacy that life's meaning is somewhere outside of ourselves. What he needs to realize is that the happiest people in the world are that way because they have assigned a purpose (or meaning) to their own lives. No one gives you a purpose for your life. Part of life's adventure involves finding out what that purpose is by trying new activities.
I'm a resume writer, for instance (and a darned good one, I might add). Modesty has never been among my virtues. But I spent a long time being depressed and sad, and a lot of money in therapy, trying to find what was being assembled in front of me. I always liked to write, could express myself well. Wanted (still do!) to write fantasy a la Robert E. Howard. At the same time, though, another quality was quietly simmering on a smaller burner, the ability to help others by communicating and mentoring my own knowledge to them. It took a series of accidental coincidences, plus the help of a career counselor, to show me that, like Dorothy, I've always been able to put meaning to life. That my writing/storytelling plus my desire to help equals a resume writer. I've never been happier.
Does that answer your question?
That's a challenging discussion to have and depends on what I think people truly need in their lives to make them happy and give them purpose. I've always had a purpose to really help my local economy grow through entrepreneurship. Therefore, I've always had a purpose to serve through my career, similar to Tamara's answer. And similar to her, I think that serving others outside of work has also been a large purpose. That has been something that has stuck with me throughout my life.
If a satisfying and fulfilling career will help your friend, a path that satisfies his basic needs in life is maybe what he would need to follow. I remember one of my mentors telling me a story about a very successful physician being miserable in his work. He was miserable because he went on a path that others wanted for him, and not what he wanted. My mentor told me that his physician friend really wanted to be an astronomer, and would take his free time at night and take his telescope outside and stare at the stars. That story really stuck with me.
Hopefully for your friend he can take a step back and really analyze what is important to him and be truly honest with himself. That way, he can formulate a plan and move forward with a more fulfilling life.
Purpose in life? Wow that is deep and I think it is different throughout our lifes. When I was 22 my purpose was so much different than my purpose now in my 40's. What I have found that for me personally what brings me purpose in life is not serving self, but helping others. I do this in my professional life and I do this in my non profit. When one serves self I think it can cause one to feel not as fulfilled in life. Not sure this is what you were looking for. Hope that your friend will find his "purpose" soon!